Without a doubt the most important element to healthy relating is the ability to express kindness and compassion under all circumstances. Typically when couples suffer it is due to their insistence upon pushing their own agendas rather than showing each other love and understanding. As a culture we are far too concerned with being “right” and not nearly considerate enough of other people's feelings and perspectives. When romantic partners look out for each other then trust and intimacy grow and the relationship elevates to great heights. In this dynamic it is possible for both people to truly be themselves and get many of their needs met in a respectful manner. In order to succeed at this type of relationship each partner must become responsible for their own emotions and know how to stay centered when triggers arise (this is a worthwhile practice no matter one’s relationship status). It is important to understand our motivation for love and then to ask ourselves whether our thoughts, words and actions are in alignment with our goals. Let’s love well!